Comments on: Thoughts From an Elder on Being Worthless http://takingcareofthefolks.com/thoughts-from-an-elder-on-being-worthless/ education~encouragement~engagement Mon, 23 Apr 2012 22:29:08 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Giving to our Elders | Seniors For Living http://takingcareofthefolks.com/thoughts-from-an-elder-on-being-worthless/comment-page-1/#comment-793 Giving to our Elders | Seniors For Living Tue, 21 Dec 2010 14:22:57 +0000 http://takingcareofthefolks.com/?p=771#comment-793 [...] The Intentional Caregiver recently tweeted the link to a poignant piece she wrote in November 2009. The post contained a letter she received from the friend of an 80-year-old who felt neglected by his family, particularly his granddaughter. Here’s an excerpt: “This is [...] [...] The Intentional Caregiver recently tweeted the link to a poignant piece she wrote in November 2009. The post contained a letter she received from the friend of an 80-year-old who felt neglected by his family, particularly his granddaughter. Here’s an excerpt: “This is [...]

]]> By: Mike Gamble http://takingcareofthefolks.com/thoughts-from-an-elder-on-being-worthless/comment-page-1/#comment-334 Mike Gamble Thu, 03 Dec 2009 15:50:42 +0000 http://takingcareofthefolks.com/?p=771#comment-334 This smells of "patient dumping." Dad or Mom can't live on their own anymore. And, I don't have the time to [don't want to] take care of them. They need to go to Assisted Living or be put into a nursing home. Problem solved! S/he is being taken care of and I can go on living my life without guilt and without the hassles of caregiving! This smells of “patient dumping.” Dad or Mom can’t live on their own anymore. And, I don’t have the time to [don't want to] take care of them. They need to go to Assisted Living or be put into a nursing home. Problem solved! S/he is being taken care of and I can go on living my life without guilt and without the hassles of caregiving!

]]> By: Carol http://takingcareofthefolks.com/thoughts-from-an-elder-on-being-worthless/comment-page-1/#comment-308 Carol Fri, 20 Nov 2009 03:50:06 +0000 http://takingcareofthefolks.com/?p=771#comment-308 I'm sorry you are not visited by your relatives. It is not often that the elderly say this themselves, but just suffer whatever thoughtless interactions relatives offer...or don't offer. I have this problem with my sisters visiting their mother, being interested in her at all, helping at all, and doing what you describe just on holidays "drive by social visits." EVERY DAY is MOTHER'S DAY!! I tell them. Who really celebrates a HOLIDAY? They show up for Thanksgiving with no "thanks." If nothing else, this caregiving gig has given me antennae for the Real Deal people, and those who are thoughtless and shallow. That's my big insult to my sisters. Shallow. I’m sorry you are not visited by your relatives. It is not often that the elderly say this themselves, but just suffer whatever thoughtless interactions relatives offer…or don’t offer.

I have this problem with my sisters visiting their mother, being interested in her at all, helping at all, and doing what you describe just on holidays “drive by social visits.” EVERY DAY is MOTHER’S DAY!! I tell them. Who really celebrates a HOLIDAY? They show up for Thanksgiving with no “thanks.”

If nothing else, this caregiving gig has given me antennae for the Real Deal people, and those who are thoughtless and shallow. That’s my big insult to my sisters. Shallow.

]]> By: admin http://takingcareofthefolks.com/thoughts-from-an-elder-on-being-worthless/comment-page-1/#comment-306 admin Thu, 19 Nov 2009 19:34:57 +0000 http://takingcareofthefolks.com/?p=771#comment-306 Well said, Suzanne. Thankfully, we still have time to make changes. Well said, Suzanne. Thankfully, we still have time to make changes.

]]> By: Suzanne http://takingcareofthefolks.com/thoughts-from-an-elder-on-being-worthless/comment-page-1/#comment-301 Suzanne Wed, 18 Nov 2009 19:34:41 +0000 http://takingcareofthefolks.com/?p=771#comment-301 That is sadly and totally the voice of the aging community. Thank you for giving a voice and a "face" to the reality. And thank you for the call to make the change today. I take that challenge for my own children (even though they are youngsters) to value their grandparents today - including the grandparents that live far away. A card and call more than at Holidays would so bless them. Thank you. That is sadly and totally the voice of the aging community. Thank you for giving a voice and a “face” to the reality. And thank you for the call to make the change today. I take that challenge for my own children (even though they are youngsters) to value their grandparents today – including the grandparents that live far away. A card and call more than at Holidays would so bless them. Thank you.

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